SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - DETERMINED…OR…

There is a big difference between persistence and obstinacy.

Persistence is connected to forward momentum and can have an element of flexibility.

Obstinacy is blocked energy.

If you feel like you are knocking your head against a wall, that's obstinacy.

Determination is about keeping a goal in sight - aiming for a result - but having the ability to review and change the method as needed!

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           

An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

ARE YOU DETERMINED…OR OBSTINATE?

Think about some of your goals, especially the ones that you find challenging. 

How do you go about trying to achieve your objective?

Do you keep doing the same things and feel discouraged when you don't accomplish that goal?

Do you fault yourself for the lack of success?

Do you fault others?

Get angry?

HANG IN THERE

"He said I was very 'deter-mined'," she told me grinning.

Huh?

"You know," she explained, "no matter what happens I don't give up!"

"I fall and crash, I fail, but I just keep retreading…"

"Some people think I'm nuts," she continued.

"But seriously, I enjoy the challenge… and besides, what's the alternative?"

What do ya say?  Is this you?

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - FINDING BALANCE

Here's today's question:  When do patience, persistence, and determination morph into stubbornness?

How do we mark that boundary between hitting our heads against the wall and giving up too soon?

An interesting and important question, right?

On the one side strength, on the other side rigidity…

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           

An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

FEEL THE DIFFERENCE!

Here's an interesting way of thinking about these feelings:

Persistence, patience and determination have a certain 'color' and 'sound' - a feeling of 'Yes!

Stubbornness is a different 'color'.

Can you let yourself experience that difference?

Imagine giving a color to each of these emotional states.  

What would it be?

Now imagine giving them a sound.  

Try this until you hit something that feels right.  

Try humming it. 

The idea is that the sound or color becomes almost automatic, and gives you an emotional heads up.

The goal is to help you experience when you shift from healthy and strong to rigid and stultifying.