Habits, and here we are clearly focusing
on the 'bad' ones, get created over time, and yet somehow we expect to break
them with one mighty tug!
Not terribly logical.
If instead, we allow ourselves to assume that
any habitual behavior - by definition created through repetition and over time
- will need to be released and transformed in the same way - with time and
repetition - we will truly upgrade our chances of success!
Also obstructive is the belief about 'easy'. We are assured that once we decide to change
it should be effortless and painless…
Ask any pro athlete if developing new
skills and muscle memory is effortless.
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…
TALK TO YOURSELF!
Sometimes, with the
struggle to change, we inadvertently create a push/pull between two
different parts of ourselves… the 'I want it now!' part and the 'I'm in it for
the long run' part…
Get an imaginary
dialog going between these two warring parts of yourself...
Part 1: I should not have to work so hard! Waaa
waaaa waaaa! Give me that (fill
in the blank ) now! Stomp stomp! You can't make me! NO
NO NO!
Part 2: Wait!
I don't want to be stuck here! I
want that different way of doing things - I want to look different, feel
differently, act in a different way!
Part 1: Ugh!
You are such a stick in the mud!
You are no fun and I will not let you control me! I am in charge and I WANT IT NOW! GET OUT OF MY WAY!
Part 2: NO! I
get that this is hard for you and that you are hurting but I count too. Take a deep breath! Give me a chance…
Ok, that's a
starting dialog. Take it where it fits
for you.
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