Ever feel
stuck? If you are human the answer is
'yes'…
Looking for
external causes?
Maybe the
problem is a little closer to home.
Often we get
jammed when our internal voices are fighting with each other without our
knowledge.
These 'voices'
are swallowed down beliefs and undigested mandates that we pick up during our
life from our parents, siblings, teachers and society - all those 'you shoulds'
and 'you are's' and 'you have tos' that rattle around in our heads.
Sometimes one
side wins, sometimes the other, but the stumbling block which causes our 'stuckness'
is the unresolved conflict itself!
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An opportunity to
experiment with some fun
ideas...
INNER CONFLICT RESOLUTION
102
Awareness - You know what you are
stuck about - that's easy to see and
feel. Now use your detective sense and
find the opposing inner sides of the conflict - See if you can give
each of these conflicting parts of you an identity - label them in a way that
allows you to recognize and become familiar with them.
Dialogs - In real life conflict
resolution we try to get opposing side to enter into a dialog, right? So now try this out with
your inner conflict! Just as in the
outer world, it can be lots of fun and incredibly informative and productive. Give each of the inner sides a voice.
Acknowledgment of
conflicting positions
- Now let each of these sides tell the other side who it is and what it wants
and maybe even how it feels! An easy
trick is to use your hands - right hand is one voice, left hand is the
other. Remember that saying: 'Talk to
the hand'? You might be surprised at
what comes out!
Negotiation - Now that they have defined
who they are, let them start the process of trying to come to a win/win.
Resolution - You want to see if you
can bring their positions closer together or at least find a way that they can
share the upper hand - you know, 'I win today, you get your way tomorrow'…
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