Showing posts with label suffering. Show all posts
Showing posts with label suffering. Show all posts

Tuesday, March 1, 2016

I'M HOLDING ON!

"I am not going to forgive him!  What he did was so wrong!  He does not deserve to be let off the hook!"

Interesting, right?


Now, think about this one a little, okay?

Who in this story is actually on the hook?
The 'wrong doer' or the 'holder on-er'?


What do ya say?


How much of a load are you hanging on to?  
And who's really suffering…






Tuesday, June 10, 2014

PAIN AND SUFFERING…

"I seem to equate feeling bad with helping," he told me with tears in his eyes.


Not the first time I've heard this one... 

You know, that old 'suffering = empathy and being a kind and loving human being'…



HMMM…

Wonder where we learned this one?

What do ya say?

DO YOU THINK THIS IS AN EFFECTIVE LIFE STRATEGY?






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Friday, February 14, 2014

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - MERCY AND COMFORT


One way of looking at suffering is that it is created by the combination of pain - either physical or emotional - and an overlay of causality and blame.  
In other words it is possible that pain can trigger our internal Bullies!  These learned and internalized scolding 'voices' then sink us into a morass of despair.

One of the most beautifully comforting songs about releasing oneself from this suffering was written by Leonard Cohen in 1967. To hear all the lyrics:  Sisters of Mercy - Leonard Cohen - YouTube


O the sisters of mercy they are not
Departed or gone,
They were waiting for me when I thought
That I just can't go on, 


And they brought me their comfort
And later they brought me this song.
O I hope you run into them
You who've been traveling so long. . .


If your life is a leaf
That the seasons tear off and condemn
They will bind you with love
That is graceful and green as a stem.

When I left they were sleeping,
I hope you run into them soon.
Don't turn on the light
You can read their address by the moon. . .

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS           

An opportunity to experiment with some fun
ideas...


6 REMEDIES TO DISPEL SUFFERING

1)  Remove guilty feelings by confronting your Bully voice (the 'I must have done something to cause this' part of you)

2)  Allow your inner Victim (that 'feeling sorry for yourself' part that we all have) a few minutes of air time and then banish it from your kingdom!

3)  Allow your inner Rebel ( that 'third finger waving' part of all of us) a good 5 minutes of ranting - but watch out for Rebel re-action!

4)  Empower yourself - Do some research, ask questions, name the pain - take some steps - try meditation, write a poem, sing a song, anything pro-active sends a new set of messages along your neuro-pathways.   Might not make the pain go away but definitely can reduce suffering!

5)  Try visualization (really not so different from self-hypnosis).  Have inflammation?  Imagine the area as large and bright red, now send icy blue images to overlay the area and shrink that swelling - an Arctic ice floe would do the trick - you can even throw in a penguin or two for comic relief, and yes -

6)  - anything you do to create a smile definitely reduces suffering!


Remember:  check in for that wonderful physical clue that it's working … you know a shift is happening if you automatically find yourself taking a deep breath!





A VALENTINE'S DAY THOUGHT:  REMEMBER THAT AIRLINE MANDATE: 
Put your own O2 mask on first!
Hey, love yourself!


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Thursday, February 13, 2014

DO WE HAVE TO SUFFER?


Okay, we all realize that pain comes with life.  Starting with that first newborn cry, moving into infancy and onward…

However, while we might not have control over all pain, did you ever stop to think about the phenomena of suffering?

While suffering often seems to accompany pain, is it possible that this one is more in our control than we think?

Remember that wonderful quote from Viktor Frankel:



What do ya say?

How do you define suffering and what do you want to do about it?





TUNE IN TOMORROW FOR SOME INTERESTING IDEAS!




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