SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - SET YOURSELF UP TO…FAIL?

We often think it's an excellent idea to empower our own inner bullies. 

We have a tendency to believe that the part of us that pushes us, scolds us and whacks us into shape is actually a strength.

In reality, what we create is a push/pull dynamic that at best paralyses us and at worst makes failure probable!

It is not in our nature to like being pushed and we naturally fight back.  Sometimes we rebel overtly and sometimes we create 'drag' by slumping into the victim 'I can't' position!

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           

An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

THINK ABOUT THE WAYS YOU MAY HAVE INADVERTANTLY SET UP THIS NO-WIN DYNAMIC…

What are some of your inner Bully riffs?

How often do you scold yourself?  Push yourself?

Criticize your efforts?

Have you really found this to be effective… in the long run?

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - IS IT HELPING?

Think about some of the things you don't do…

Is it because you are afraid of your own inner Bully?

If you say 'I don't do that because I'm not good at it' that's your Bully voice getting in the way…

Does it really matter if you're not good at it?

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS           

An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

Think about some of those things that you avoid or quit doing because you believe that you can't do them 'good enough'.

What's on your list?

  Dancing?

  Trying to speak another language?

  Cooking?

  On-line dating?

  Telling jokes?

  Trying anything new?

Now ask yourself what your Bully voice does to stop you.

  Call you names?

  Tells you you're not good at it?

  Make faces at you?

Ludicrous?

Really give yourself a minute to think about this…

Other than that inner judge, what's stopping you?

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