SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - THE LECTURE CIRCUIT

Why do we so often respond to other peoples' problems by lecturing them?

Do we really think that we know the answers for them?

Or maybe we are just imitating an M.O. we learned from our parents?

Do we like being lectured?

Do we take in advice delivered in this manner?

Is lecturing ever useful?   Almost never!

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

THINK ABOUT THE LAST TIME YOU LECTURED SOMEONE OR WERE LECTURED BY THEM…

What do you think was the motivation:

Trying to be helpful?

Feeling smart?

Relieving your own anxiety?

Dealing with your own anger and stress?

Indirectly working out your own 'stuff'?

Copying learned behavior?

BLAH BLAH BLAH…

She was lecturing me, non-stop, about how bad it was that I had lectured her about…

Yikes!

What is this propensity we humans have for telling other people what to do?

What do ya say?

You don't do this, right?

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - SO WHAT'S THE JOKE?

The joke is about control.

Big picture, control is a total illusion!

Small scale:  Sure.

You can control the mess in your home, your paperwork, what you ingest…

You can not control the mess other people make, that random trip and fall, the crash, earthquake, death…

There is reality and there is illusion.

Mixing them up creates serious stress, pain and suffering.

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           

An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

SEPARATE WHAT YOU CAN FROM WHAT YOU CAN'T!

Ask yourself how many times this past week you scolded yourself about something that actually was out of your control.

How do you think you would have felt if you let go of that illusion of being able to control it, rolled your eyes and laughed instead of shaking your finger?