SERIOUSLY SPEAKING – TAKING STEPS TO HEAL

We tend to re- invite the same people who originally wounded us back into our lives – again and again…

Perhaps they are wearing different faces but their behavior is the same.

Some believe that this is the organism’s way of trying to finally get it right.  That with enough practice one day that same story will have a different ending…

Remember that old saying:  If you invite an elephant into your house you have to deal with elephant shi…!

And then there’s the one about the scorpion who stings the turtle ferrying it across a deep pond… Remember that one? 






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Is it possible for us to heal our emotional wounds if we do invite the same type of person into our lives?


Yes.  You can still use these relationships to mend wounds from the past with: AWARENESS!

1)      Be aware that you have made a choice!

2)      Be aware of the similarities.  Compare their personality, behavior, words.

Any of these aspects of the new person ring old bells?

3)      Consciously focus on your old story that created the original wounds.

4)     NOW PLAY THIS ONE IN A DIFFERENT WAY!  Try some new strategies – see what happens.

5)      This will not change the other person, but, it can allow you to re-structure your old habitual responses, creating emotional healing and freedom!

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SERIOUSLY SPEAKING – THE SECRET OF STAYING IN THE NOW

Someone brilliant once described anxiety as the distance between 'here and there'…

In the 1960’s the concept of staying focused on the present moment became a part of our culture through popular music and literature.

We now have many phrases in our language to help us stay focused on the ‘here’.  Sayings like ‘Be here now’ and ‘One day (step) at a time’ are designed to remind us that being in the present instead of putting our focus on what comes later can improve the quality of our life.


To illustrate this point, Dr. Patrick Gallagher, the Chairman of the Anthropology Department at George Washington University in the 1960’s, used to tell his students that you can’t be late until you actually arrive at your destination, so worrying about it in the meantime didn’t make sense…




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THE BEST EVER TRICK FOR STAYING IN THE NOW

BREATHE!

If you really focus on your breathing, especially if you include a ’count’ with it, it is just about impossible to focus on anything else!

The time honored formula is:

Take a deep breathe in on the count of 4

As you do this count ‘out-loud’ in your mind in a calming voice…
“In 2, 3, 4…”

Now as you exhale, once again use this same calming voice to count…
“Out 2, 3, 4…”

Do this several times (not while driving etc…)

After a few of these you will definitely be present and experience the joy of being in the moment.  Your sense of smell, your vision and sense of touch, all your senses heighten as you oxygenate your entire system. 

Giving ourselves totally present moments helps increase our ability to focus and deal with the ‘next steps’ or next pages in our lives with more wisdom and awareness.

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