SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - FINDING BALANCE… AGAIN

We are all affected by events around us - the weather for sure, interactions with others, all types of internal and external stressors. 

We're usually aware that something is going on and often acknowledge the feelings that these things cause.

But sometimes we forget that awareness is only the first step…

We need follow through - a means of healing the internal off-balance we experience.

Many cultures stress the importance of re-balancing within ourselves, with nature and with those around us.

Our native cultures use rituals to bring harmony back to individuals and their community. read more

Many cultures focus their medicine on rebalancing the individuals internal system.

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THREE STEPS FOR PERSONAL HEALING

1.  AWARENESS

          Ask yourself :

          How are you feeling?

          What recently happened that might be affecting you?

2)  ACTIVATE YOUR 'REPAIR'

          Ask yourself:

          What can I do?

          Who can I talk to?

          What physical steps will help?

3)  ACKNOWLEDGE THE SHIFT

          Thank yourself!

          Thank others!

          

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - LAUGHTER, WHIMSEY AND RENEWAL

We often find ourselves holding onto our misery, not even being aware of the potential relief available around us…

If we put this position into words it might sound something like:  "Hey, things suck right now, and I have the right to be miserable!"

Okaaay…

BUT

Think about this - moments of relief do not diminish the 'credit' you get for what you are going through…  but they mitigate some of your suffering!

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Pay attention to opportunities for 'time out' in your environment…

Make a list of your 'go to' escapes.  Where do you find moments of silliness, whimsy and laughter?

    

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - TAKING IT IN

What we needed:  truth, love, support, recognition, applause…

Here's a lovely story of a moment of 'turn-around'…

The new mother's heart opened as she held her child, even though she thought about what she hadn't ever gotten from her own mother.

That mother (grandmother, now) came for a visit and the new mother actually felt her own heart healing as she watched her mother give the new baby the love she had never given her daughter.

The new mother could have felt anger, even jealousy, but instead took in that second-hand love and allowed it to begin to heal her own hurt…

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We don't heal by pretending not to have suffered hurt.

We can heal by recognizing our need, and opening ourselves up to that second-chance love that actually does exist…

As you go through the day, look for those moments - they don't even have to belong to you, but can occur between those around you.

A shared smile, a laugh, a moment of kindness.

Allow yourself to take them in - incorporating them into your own self.

YAKETY YAK…

She was grumbling about a recent visit to an out of town friend.

As usual she talked fast and non-stop.  Her rant this time was about her friend's new guy.  off topic but totally on...

When she stopped to catch her breath, I squeezed in a quick question:

"What's wrong with him?"

"He never stops talking!" she huffed.  

"And I could never get I word in!"

Uh huh…

What do ya say?

Ever stop to wonder if the things that bug you the most about other people might - just might - hit a little too close to home?

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - MOODY MUCH?

The expectation that others 'should' tip toe around our moods sets up truly unrealistic expectations…and a formula for unhappiness.

How did we get here?

Ever hear this one:  "Daddy's in a bad mood be very quiet!"

Or

"Mom had a hard day, you need to be good!"

The clear message is that one person's mood should dictate others behavior and that other people have an obligation to tip toe around you if your mood is 'bad'…

An interesting concept - the person causing the stress is not expected to fix their behavior but others have to adjust theirs…

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IF YOU ARE IN A BAD MOOD… THERE ARE REASONS!

Play detective and ask yourself:

1)  What am I actually feeling?

 2)  What happened to make me feel this way?

3)  Bad moods usually indicate anger.  It's okay to feel - just not to take it out on someone else…

SO

4)  Do something to release that anger IN AN APPROPRIATE WAY!

5)  And finally, give yourself a break - breathe deeply, relax and take some time out!

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SERIOUSLY SPEAKING – TAKING STEPS TO HEAL

We tend to re- invite the same people who originally wounded us back into our lives – again and again…

Perhaps they are wearing different faces but their behavior is the same.

Some believe that this is the organism’s way of trying to finally get it right.  That with enough practice one day that same story will have a different ending…

Remember that old saying:  If you invite an elephant into your house you have to deal with elephant shi…!

And then there’s the one about the scorpion who stings the turtle ferrying it across a deep pond… Remember that one? 






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Is it possible for us to heal our emotional wounds if we do invite the same type of person into our lives?


Yes.  You can still use these relationships to mend wounds from the past with: AWARENESS!

1)      Be aware that you have made a choice!

2)      Be aware of the similarities.  Compare their personality, behavior, words.

Any of these aspects of the new person ring old bells?

3)      Consciously focus on your old story that created the original wounds.

4)     NOW PLAY THIS ONE IN A DIFFERENT WAY!  Try some new strategies – see what happens.

5)      This will not change the other person, but, it can allow you to re-structure your old habitual responses, creating emotional healing and freedom!

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HEALING WOUNDS …

Wounds heal.  We all know that, right?

Some with only a little soap and water, maybe a bandaid over the top…

Some need more attention so that they don’t get worse and become infected.

Our emotional wounds also heal, but like the physical ones, they often need some attending to in order not to fester…

In this process we have a very important choice to make:

We can invite people into our lives who are part of our healing or part of our wounding…

What do ya say?  Does this one ring any bells?






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