Scolding does not tend
to be an effective strategy for long term change. In fact, one of the best ways to imprint a
bad habit is by scolding!
Sound strange?
Think about it. How many times did a parent saying
"Don't do that!" really stop you?
For how long?
I keep thinking about
this guy who screams "No!" at his dog all the time. He shocks the dog with his loud voice, the
behavior stops - for about 2 minutes - the dog shakes his head, re-groups - and
goes back for seconds!
Dogs and humans are not
that different in this!
How often has scolding
yourself actually changed your behavior?
DANCE
WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An opportunity to
experiment with some fun
ideas...
TAKE A LOOK AT WHERE YOU'RE STUCK AND THINK ABOUT 'UNPINNING' BEHAVIORS THAT YOU NO LONGER WANT...
An emotional anchor is a hook that has allowed a behavior to 'adhere' to you.
Our emotional anchors are
made up of words.
Did your mom ever attach
gloves to your jacket with a safety pin so that you wouldn't lose them?
We attach our behaviors with
emotional safety pins made up of these words.
Take a minute to think about
the word anchors you use:
I can't
I won't
I never
I always
I don't
Now think about the behaviors or habits
you use them to attach to yourself...
Eating?
Exercise?
Sleeping?
Drinking?
Smoking?
If you decide you have some habits
you'd like to release, imagine unpinning your verbal safety pins - and actually allow yourself to experience the
sense of relief as you watch the behavior drift away…
Have some fun with this one! Do this exercise as many times as you want until the attachment is totally
gone!
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