Growing up most of us have heard,
"You are too selfish!" and
"Did you see what you just did?" Confusing admonitions indeed!
We criticize our children if we think
they are too focused on 'self' and at the same time demand that very focus!
An integral element of mental health
is balance which clearly comes into play in the area of 'self'.
We do need to be self-aware - clued into how we interact with our world and impact
others and ourselves.
Self-absorption, on the other hand, is a limiting phenomenon
that isolates us and creates pain - for ourselves and those around us!
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An opportunity to
experiment with some fun
ideas...
HOW TO SNAP A
MENTAL SELFIE
To find out where
you fit on the 'Self' Spectrum think
about a recent difficult situation with someone and ask yourself the following
questions:
1) Did I make assumptions about what the other
person was thinking?
2) Did I make assumptions about what they were
feeling - especially about me?
3) Did I check in with myself and look at my 50%
of the situation?
4) Did I automatically judge myself - or the
other person?
5) What punishment or suffering did I require of
myself - or the other person?
6) Did I find a healthy, non-accusatory, way to
resolve the issue?
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Thanks for this, Carol. As I read through your check list, I found myself realizing that, as I've often suspected, I tend to make so many negative assumptions in my life... Usually, they are just plain ill founded. Thanks for the wake up call!
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