Our need to always respond perfectly and appropriately probably comes
from our hereditary desire not to get caught - and eaten - by those lurking predators
with large teeth…
However, that primitive choice between fight or flight became more complicated
- and therefore less automatic - as words became our major tools in difficult
situations.
Fight or flight was immediate. Hearing
what is said to us, processing it, and deciding on the 'perfect' response,
particularly in those challenging situations takes a few extra steps…
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An
opportunity to experiment with some fun
ideas...
EVER CATCH YOURSELF
RESPONDING TO A SITUATION BY:
1)
Saying something stupid?
2)
Not saying anything at all?
3) Telling yourself all the things you could have/should have said - long after the event is over?
IF YOU'RE HUMAN …YOU'VE
BEEN THERE!
SO, HERE'S A NEW
PLAN OF ATTACK:
1)
Assume that you will say
something stupid sometimes.
2)
Assume you won't say anything
at all sometimes.
3) Tell yourself that these two responses are really normal and it's okay to imagine all the perfect things you could have said after the event...
Instead of berating
yourself think of it as a rehearsal…
Three great ways to join the Human Dance party:
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