How many times have you said, “They mean well, but I sure wish they’d stop with the advice”?
And on the other hand – how many times have you jumped in with ‘solutions’ when someone else is talking about their problems?
The gap between acknowledging a problem and solving it seems to make us all very anxious – whether it’s our problem or someone else’s!
In reality that interval, if we don’t short-cut it, or judge it, allows us to experience the feelings connected to our problems.
Experiencing our feelings seems to have an important role in how we actually effectively problem solve.
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An opportunity to experiment with some
fun ideas...
NEXT
TIME SOMEONE STARTS TELLING YOU ABOUT A PROBLEM GIVE THIS A TRY:
Consciously
take some deep breaths
Count
to 10
Just
listen
“Wow”,
“hmmm”, “really”, “gee” are all allowed
Nothing
else
Remember this is
an experiment
What happens to you as you do this?
What do you feel?
What kind of response do you get from
the other person?
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