SERIOUSLY SPEAKING – KEEPING IT NEW

Does familiarity breed contempt?  And what’s with two years?

Check this out:

"Never mind the seven-year itch. Newlyweds have an even earlier milestone to fear: the two-year slouch.

The average couple gives up on romance just two years, six months and 25 days …according to research.

Beyond this point romance, if not dead, is definitely on its sickbed…"   read more

When we first meet someone attractive to us, they are “other”.  They are different and intriguing and we often crave a confluence or union that allows us to merge with them.

In this process, in our desire for intimacy, it is easy to lose our boundaries and fuse to the extent that our acceptance and appreciation of their otherness disappears. 


At this point (often around the two year mark) it becomes too easy to begin that dangerous ‘taking them for granted’ process, losing the feeling that initially attracted us – along with the behavior that attracted them!

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS

An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas..

HOW TO KEEP IT REAL - A VERY SIMPLE EXPERIMENT

This mind game is designed to sensitize you to the rhythm of relationships and empower you to keep it where it feels the best!

Imagine two body- sized circles floating in space.

Put yourself in one circle and your partner in the other.

Visualize each of these images clearly.           

Now simply experiment with moving the circles.

Move the circles very far apart.

How does this feel?

Now overlap them,

How is this?

Now adjust the distance to the perfect position where you can feel both connected and separate enough to appreciate differences.

True intimacy requires boundaries. 

If the distance we create is too small the other is only a poor reflection of us and we get judgmental… 

If the distance we create is too large we lose the intimacy.

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