COUNTING THEM

WINTER.

Cold, rainy day…

Ugh.

Waaah   Waaah   Waaah

But

I haven't seen any mosquitos…

Or Boa constrictors…

Or alligators…

What do ya say?

You get it right?

Gotta count those little blessings

WHO ARE YOU?

Remember that great scene from Alice in Wonderland?

Check it out:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tf5nCPFBSHw

So, who are you?

What is your self concept or self image?

Who taught you how to define yourself?

Does what you believe help you or harm you?

What do ya say?

Whose eyes do you see yourself through?

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - WHAT'S FAIR?

We teach our children to be 'fair' - it seems like a good idea - connected to sharing and equality and all those positive concepts.

But

It turns truly toxic when we start to believe there is this measurement called 'fair' that dictates what we deserve…

And, of course, the true emotional blow comes when what actually happens in our lives doesn't seem 'fair'.

We measure our allotment - how many goodies do we get compared to 'X' and how many difficulties we suffer compared to 'Y'…

And if we are really into this concept it's almost always 'not fair'!

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           

An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

THINK ABOUT IT:  HAVE YOU EVER MET ANYONE WHO REALLY THINKS WHAT THEY GET IS 'FAIR'?

CAN YOU UNDERSTAND HOW BUYING INTO THIS CONCEPT CREATES UNHAPPINESS?

WHAT DO YOU THINK WOULD HAPPEN IF YOU LET GO OF 'FAIR'?

SLOGGING THROUGH THE DOWN DAYS

We all have them - that's reality…

Those days when everything seems to be crashing down around us.

We can make them worse with those ubiquitous mantras:

    'Why me?'

    'It's not fair!'

    'Everything happens to me…'

    'So and so has it waaay easier than I do…'

Or we can make them better by taking a deep breath and maybe just hiding under the bed for awhile…

What do ya say?

You get it, right?

THE DARKNESS OF HATE

People who should know better are talking about degrees of hate crimes…

Really?

Hatred and its acting out are poisonous - no matter the degree.

As young humans we are often subjected to toxic beliefs and sometimes buy into them.  

But this does not have to contaminate our lives going forward.

Our job is to bring light to the insanity of these twisted ways of thinking and behaving and work to stamp them out!

What do ya say?

Are you on board with helping to heal our world?

DO YOU BELIEVE IN MIRACLES?

If you light a Menorah, or are privileged to witness the lighting, you realize that bringing light into the darkness of winter is a gift…

 We humans need light to survive.  

Whether it's the actual lighting of a candle or the symbolic bringing of light with a smile or a hug …

In the darkest of times we need to commemorate and celebrate this miracle.

What do ya say?

Can you relate?

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - WORKING THOSE COCKEYED DAYS

What did you do wrong?  It has to be your fault, right?

Maybe… but maybe not!

Sometimes it really isn't over to you.

Sometimes, no matter how hard you try it's them… or it!

There's a reason mankind has, throughout time, reached for those externals - like the path of the stars or the tilt of the earths' axis - to explain things!

It's because nothing is as harsh - and actually as debilitating - as the whip of our own inner bullies!

When it all goes wrong it's important to shut down that inner bully voice.

Why?  Doesn't it help us keep on moving forward, getting things done?

NO!

On top of all the difficulties you may be dealing with, this harsh, critical voice is paralyzing and immobilizing!

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           

An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

HEALTHY EXIT STRATEGIES

When it all crashes down around you is the most crucial time to be kind to yourself!

Find a loving inner voice.  This one says:

'Hang in there!'

'We'll figure it out!'

Even that great one:

'One step at a time!'

If it's difficult for you to find this voice within yourself, think of someone whose compassion, kindness and intelligence you admire.  Now take on their persona and talk to yourself as if you were them.

What happens?