SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - ENABLED!

No one can diminish us if we acknowledge the limitations they are pointing out - especially if we get there first!

By outing ourselves we actually become more powerful by:

1)  Stealing our 'opponents' thunder

2)  Showing our courage

3)  Mitigating the sting of the limitation and actually changing it into a strength by bringing it into the light

This is not at all the same as portraying ourselves as victims but rather as victors!

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           

An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

WHAT LIMITATIONS DO YOU HAVE?

If you said 'none' you fail the 'human' test!

Are you:

Elderly?

Young?

Dyslexic?

On that famous Autism spectrum?

Dealing with a physical challenge?

A mental challenge?

You get the drift of this, right?  Do you actually know anyone who doesn't have limitations?

Wouldn't life feel easier if we just called it like it is and moved on?

WHAT MAKES YOU STRONG?

We've all heard that saying:  'What doesn't kill you, makes you strong.'

And it probably sounded like one of those Pollyanna, making lemonade out of lemons things, right?

But…

How about changing it up a tiny bit?

How about: 'Acknowledging our limitations makes us strong'?

What do ya say? 

Do you get this one?

Ever try it?

MR. SWEET

Once upon a time, in a land far away, actually a small burg in upstate New York, a young girl was sitting in the back of a classroom quietly crying…

She was a good student.  She really worked at it, but she was in extremis! 

It was final exam time and that paper in front of her was torment!  None of it made sense!  Weird symbols that were getting weirder as they blurred with her tears…

The teacher, yes, his name really was Mr. Sweet, had been watching her with concern.  He was not only a compassionate human but he also loved math and just couldn't stand his beloved material being so poorly received…

He pulled up a chair next to the girl and tried - really tried - to point out the beauty and simplicity of his wonderful Algebra…

Showing her with great enthusiasm how easy it all was, he proceeded to do - and ace - her final exam…

A half century has passed and that girl is still grateful to this exceedingly kind human. 

She went on to ace many exams over the years but the biggest lesson she learned that day was understanding that all of us have limitations and reaching out with compassion changes a person's live forever!

What do ya say?

Ever had a Mr. Sweet in your life?

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SERIOUSLY SPEAKING – 3 GREAT TIPS FOR DUMPING GUILT

“I have never smuggled anything in my life, why then, do I feel an uneasy sense of guilt on approaching a customs barrier?” – John Steinbeck

Is guilt a part of the human condition?

It certainly has been with us for a long time and permeates society in literature, theater – think Macbeth – and music – Elton John’s “So Sorry...”

The many explanations for guilt include seeing it as both an individual and societal manipulation mechanism.

It is theorized that as a society we use guilt to reinforce our rules and that as individuals we use guilt to control others.

When we experience this feeling in ourselves it often comes from a sense of not living up to expectations and an inflated sense of control that causes us to feel responsible for the misfortunes of others.

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS           

An opportunity to experiment with some fun

ideas...

3 GREAT TIPS FOR DUMPING GUILT

1-   Get in touch with your anger!

Often guilty feelings are anger in disguise!  Ask yourself it you might be even a tiny bit angry at the situation that you are feeling guilty about. 

Do something ‘non-toxic’ to release any anger you discover.

2-   Stop thinking you can control it all!

The illusion of control also can lead to feeling guilty.  If we assume that it is all up to us, it becomes our fault if it goes wrong...

A seductive fantasy...but take a deep breath and give it up!

3-   Don’t say ‘yes’ when you mean ‘no’!

Feeling guilty can be the result of saying ‘yes’ and then not doing whatever you agreed to do.

Give yourself permission to say NO!

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