FORBIDDEN TERRITORY!

Have you ever noticed how many times people think they are really 'helping' you … but they are actually breaking taboos!

What taboos is she talking about, you ask?

Check it out:

THE NEW TABOOS …

1) Food and eating advice

2) Exercise advice

3) Relationship advice

Unless you are specifically and clearly begged for your input, and no matter how good your intentions, it is taboo to open your mouth!

What do ya say?

You never step over this line, right?

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SERIOUSLY SPEAKING – THE TORMENT OF GOOD INTENTIONS

What pushes us to make these shaky promises?  

Who are we talking to – ourselves or some internal or external Bully voice that is demanding behavior we are not doing – and certainly not ready to do?

By filling our heads with ‘good intentions’ we create an internal push/pull that takes energy.  

The intention – since it is not actually happening – becomes a ‘should’ that we then often feel a need to defend ourselves against!

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS

An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas...

THE GOOD INTENTIONS DANCE

Check this one out:

Think of something you’ve been promising yourself to do.  Does this dialogue sound familiar?

VOICE ONE:  You should be doing…whatever

VOICE TWO:  Yeah, I know you’re right.  I mean to, but…

VOICE ONE:  No buts!

VOICE TWO:  No, really, I do plan on doing it!  It’s just that…

VOICE ONE:  No excuses!

VOICE TWO:  I’m trying…

Sound familiar? 

Voice One is your internal Bully and Voice Two is your Victim voice – and on this one their paths are obviously not coming together!

Now replay this dialogue with a different type of Voice One:

Try out a few different styles.

Compassionate:  I know this is difficult for you…

Acknowledging:  I know you really don’t want to do…

Cheerleading:  Come on, let’s try it!  I’m with you all the way!

Bribing/Dealmaking:  If you do it, I’ll give you…

How does Voice Two respond to each of these styles?

Give it a shot and see what happens!

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GOOD INTENTIONS…

“I’m working on it…”
“I’m planning to…”
“When I find the right…”

Exercise?
Eating right?
Giving up whatever?  
SURE...

We all know how this one goes.

The stars need to be aligned just so…

Isn’t there a song about this?





“When the moon is in the Seventh House
And Jupiter aligns with Mars
Then peace will guide the planets
And love will steer the stars…”

Oops!  No.  I think that’s about something else…

But what is this about?  Do we really think we’ll get points for having good intentions?  Or is this just another way to torment ourselves?

What do ya say?

Where do you think this cockamamie concept comes from?

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