Showing posts with label applause. Show all posts
Showing posts with label applause. Show all posts

Wednesday, January 11, 2017

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - APPLAUSE?

How did most of us get so jammed up in our attempts to get that very straight forward, simple acknowledgment that we crave and need?

What created the belief that wanting this is wrong?

Can we blame it on bullying parents?
On a narcissistic, attention hogging sibling?
On an overly demanding teacher?

If we assume that needing recognition is a normal human desire, how can we go about getting it in a healthy, productive way?


DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

A 5 STEP 'APPLAUSE EVALUATION'

I)  To what degree do you feel appreciated by: (rate this on a scale of 1-10 with 10 high)
* Family?
* Friends?
* Work?
* Neighbors?
* Romantic Partners?

II)  Do you play humble and hope others will figure out your contribution and acknowledge you?

III)  Do you go in the opposite direction and grandstand in order to get acknowledged?

IV)  Are you a 'know-it-all' always correcting and adding to others statements?

V)  Were you a teacher's pet and still play that role hoping to get that same type of applause?

ARE YOUR STRATEGIES WORKING FOR YOU? 







Tuesday, January 10, 2017

BRAVO! BRAVO!

We all need to be appreciated…
You, me, all of us.

We need the 'Yay you!', A+, Golden Globe, Thank you, Hand clapping validation that tells us we did it, we count, we make a difference.


BUT

Some of us go about getting it in the most twisted, distorted, backwards, ineffective ways possible.


What do ya say?

You do know what I mean, right?


Friday, November 1, 2013

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING – 5 WAYS TO GET MORE APPLAUSE!


Why is acknowledgement important?

Shouldn’t it be enough for us just to know what we’ve accomplished?

No!

Acknowledgement by others helps us recognize what works – it’s a type of ‘bio-feedback’.

When someone says, “Your advice was so good!” it reinforces how we can – and do – have an impact on the world around us.

This appreciation is a part of what validates our existence. 

Our knowledge, helpfulness, intelligence and contributions to our world all get highlighted by the ‘applause’ we receive from those around us.







DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS           

An opportunity to experiment with some fun
ideas...


FEELING APPLAUSE DEPRIVED?


5 WAYS TO GET MORE:

1)    Take a bow!
No, seriously, highlight your contribution – it’s ok. 
Say: “Oh, I notice you are taking that class I recommended!  I’m so glad!”

2)    Ask a question!
“Was my advice the other day helpful?  I hope so.”

3)    Point out the time factor!
“I spent a lot of time thinking about your problem so I’m happy to see my input was useful to you!”

4)    Underline your generosity!
“I’m always happy to help you when I can.”

5)    Focus attention on the value of your input!
“I’m so glad you took my advice. The change is lovely!”








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Thursday, October 31, 2013

GIVING CREDIT – WHERE IT’S DUE!


Don’t you just hate it when someone else gets credit for your work?

Parents get this one all the time –

A kid comes home from school and says:

“Hey, guess what I learned in school today?”

And proceeds to educate you on the fine points of something you’ve only been saying for the last year!  Ugh!

And how about this one:

You tell your girlfriend how wonderful it would make you feel if she’d join you for a run.

Does she listen?

No!

And then – Yup - she comes back from a visit to the doctor and says:

“Hey guess what?  My doctor is so smart!  He had this great idea…”

Do you want to kill her or what?

I bet you can add at least 5 more examples of this one, right?
At least if these ungrateful wretches included you in the credit... 

You know – Something like:

“Hey my doctor agrees with you that I should take up running!”

Or

“Hey  guess what?  My teacher finally caught up with you!  She’s saying exactly what you’ve been telling me for the last …”


Oh, Man, wouldn‘t that feel great!

You know, just a little credit!

What do ya say?  Been there?


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